Friday, December 17, 2010

Starting up a network of homebased tutors...

Officially left MOE and now, I finally understand how full time private tutors feel.
No 'job security' due to irregular payments (if students go on holidays, etc), no CPF contribution, etc etc.

So, I've decided to recruit dedicated teachers/tutors to join my network. Keen? Check this out: http://mwtuition-joinastutor.blogspot.com.

Moving forward, I hope to find a suitable space to set up a centre.
For now, network of homebased tutors will be good.

New website will be up in around 3 weeks' time if there's no delay. Now, we just need photos to put on the new website. I've decided to get my current students for the photoshoot so that it's authentic (no stock photos of models).

Hopefully all will go well and students will  get to choose from a wider variety of tutors who subscribe to my believes: Teaching our next generation to THINK!

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Our Experiences in Life Mould Us into What We Are...

After blogging about my experience on a mission trip last night, I was chatting with hubs and I did some thinking...

And it dawned on me that IT IS these experiences I had in MY LIFE that moulded me into what I am today.
The love for children and teaching started then.

Thinking forward, I'm reminded that our youths today may not have this opportunity to experience life in poverty.
They take everything for granted, assume that everything must be provided.

I hope that I can restart my engine into mission work again. And hopefully, in time to come, bring my son along to experience what I had experienced so many years back.

I think I'll take some time off in June 2011 and join my mum in Balai, Indonesia where they are doing mission work now, with weekly trips up to conduct lessons and interact with the children. Or Christmas 2011. :D

Touched

Just last week, a very pretty lady added me on FB.
I had no clue who she was as the name was not familiar.
Then, I checked if we have any common friends and she's my brother's friend.
Weird.... because I know most of my brother's friends and I seriously do not remember this pretty lady!

Anyway, I added her to see who she was.
Browsing through her photos, I still could not figure out who she is.
Then, I came to her album labelled "Friendship Village".
The name was extremely familiar. I took a peek.
The background was awfully familiar.
The people in the photo were somewhat familiar.
Then, I saw a photo of a HOT SPRING. TADAH~!
I knew where it was. And I knew why it looked so familiar.

It's Thailand, Yala, Betong. A small village on the mountains near the borders of Thailand and Malaysia.
My first trip there was when I was 14. I went with my mum and some of her friends & my friends to do mission work. We played with the children, visited families, taught the children English, etc. The first time I was there, I felt like a little girl, tagging along with Mummy.

I remember clearly. The friendly smiles from the villagers, the warm welcomes and the wonderful homecooked food!!!

I was very shy on my first trip, and did not really interact much with the children there.

Then, my mum wanted my brother to go and take a trip there. And we organised another trip the following year. This time, my mum put all YOUTHS in the group and we only had 1 adult (she's actually considered youth cos she was only in her mid-20s). The rest of the group consisted of 15 - 18yos. I was the youngest in the group, but my mum said that they all had to listen to me. Why? I was the only one who went up there before. [Finally! A chance to control all the big boys who always bullied me!]

The journey up to Southern Thailand, Hatyai was not easy. I recall taking a coach from Singapore's Beach Road. Then, we travelled through Msia, stopping at Alor Setar  (sorry, there's a mistake!) BUTTERWORTH (near Penang) to change into TAXIs to bring up to Hatyai. But we did stop at Alor Setar for breakfast & fuel. Scary experience with rains and the windy roads.

Once in Hatyai, we had to find our way to the travel agency to wait for our contact person from the village. I was the only person in the entire group that recognised him! Tired and sleepy, I had no choice but to shoo the big boys into the travel agency while I stood outside keeping a lookout for our contact guy. Due to miscommunication, he only found us after 3 hours. He went to the wrong travel agency. -___"-

The journey up in a beat up pickup truck took 6 hours. Along the way, I must have wasted at least a dozen plastic bags from all the puking. The big brothers in the trip were nice and ensured I was hydrated (but I hated them for treating me like a baby).

Once we've reached, the big boys (my brother and his friends) were 'lost'. They did not know what to do and where to go. This little sister had to bring them to the 'house' and show them to their room, teach them how to use the toilet (no flush) and show them how to boil their bath water if they wanted a warm shower.
I remember teasing them about being the big boys but needing their little sister to look after them.

When I brought them out to meet the kids for the first time, they could not communicate with them. After my first trip up, I picked up some basic Thai while staying in the village and took up Thai lessons while in SG. It helped alot. The kids started to warm up and some of the older kids could speak Chinese.

We got very close and attached to the kids in a week, and we cried like mad when we had to leave.

I remember the nights we spent, sitting under the moon with the kids, telling them stories about Singapore.
I remember the yummy local treats the kids bought for us after school, on their way home (can't find them in Thai eateries in SG).
I remember the songs we taught them, and they songs they taught us.
I remember boiling eggs with the kids at the hot spring.
I remember eating half boiled eggs right off the shell.
I remember how the infants and toddlers were simply left in cardboard boxes with a blankie to entertain themselves while their parents were working.
I remember how the kids had motorbikes and brought us out on joyrides.I remember sitting at the only 'restaurant' in the village which was built on a stream and watching waste material go down the stream.
I remember how the kids caught a giant spider in the guy's toilet without bating an eyelid. 

Anyway, the funny story about the SPIDER....
One of the guys was taking a shower in the toilet.
Then, suddenly, a HUGE spider (the size of an adult palm with fingers included) appeared on the wall of the toilet.
The poor guy RAN OUT of the toilet (I think he remembered to grab the towel to cover the vital parts) SCREAMING!!!!
And the kids came to 'save us' by catching the spider with their bare hands and simply letting it go outside the house.
What an experience!!

It was really a great experience being there, changing the kids' lives.
And they really changed my life too. 
That trip taught the big boys to show me some respect as a leader.
And it showed me that when given the right opportunities, anyone can rise up to be a leader.


Then, when I was 16, I met my hubs and 'went steady' with him.
After my O levels, I decided that I wanted to meet the kids again.
This time, it was more of a family trip.
My mum and dad, my sis and I and my hubs (at tt time - BF).
My hubs loved the kids and cried when we had to leave - THIS MAN IS A KEEPER.


And now, seeing this pretty lady on FB, I went to dig out my old photos.
That small little girl we had so much fun with,
blossoming into a pretty young lady with a bright future.

The kids are mostly in uni now...
And I feel so proud of them!
Breaking the cycle of poverty by studying hard like we told them to...

If only our local kids can understand the hardships other face to even get a chance to study...
They may appreciate what they have even more...

I am really grateful that my mum invited me there...
To experience what it's like to be blessed in a different way...
To understand that what we have in SG is really alot more than we can ask for...

And I'm thankful to the kids who touched our lives...
I wouldn't have known the soft side of my hubs if not for them... :D

Will blog about another trip to an orphanage in another part of Thailand when I was 17yo :D

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

iHerb.com is having FREE INTERNATIONAL SHIPPING this month!!!

For those who have read my posts on supplements, you will know that I'm an ardent fan of http://www.iherb.com/.
Simply because their products are cheaper than in SG or other online stores and they ship direct to SG!

And the best part for November, they have a FREE INTERNATIONAL SHIPPING promo!
There's T&C though...
International Airmail: Free for orders over $40.00!

(Make sure your order total is $40.00 or more to see the extra savings. This shipping method is limited to orders with a value of up to $80.00 and 3 pounds (1360 grams) of weight)

Don't forget to get US$5 off your order if it's your first time ordering!
Use discount code YAF688.
All you need is your credit card (they accept local credit & debit cards)
More goodies to recommend!

FOR KIDS/STUDENTS:
- American Ginseng pills to increase concentration and mental calmness. Good for students preparing for exams.
http://www.iherb.com/Nature-s-Answer-American-Ginseng-Root-90-Veggie-Caps/8358?at=0

- Black Elderberry (Sambucol). To boost immune system. Prevents children from falling ill easily. Aids in quick recovery for flu. (Adult version available too)
http://www.iherb.com/Sambucol-Black-Elderberry-Immune-System-Support-Liquid-For-Kids-Berry-Flavored-4-fl-oz-120-ml/16697?at=0

- For kids who hate veges/fruits! Power packed nutrients (better than artificial multi vits).
http://www.iherb.com/Amazing-Grass-Kidz-SuperFood-Wild-Berry-Flavor-6-5-oz/18227?at=0
 
- Chewable BRAIN FOOD (fish oil)
http://www.iherb.com/Carlson-Labs-For-Kids-Chewable-DHA-Bursting-Orange-Flavor-120-Soft-Gels/13109?at=0
*** This product is regularly tested (using AOAC international protocols) for freshness, potency and purity by an independent, FDA-registered laboratory and has been determined to be fresh, fully-potent and free of detectable levels of mercury, cadmium, lead, PCBs and 28 other contaminants.
 
- ORGANIC LOLLIPOPS/SWEETS! What can be better than rewarding your children with something they like, made from organic fruit juices?
http://www.iherb.com/Yummy-Earth-Organic-Lollipops-50-Pops/10888?at=0

Links back to the other products I've recommended:
http://thelittleonesinmylife.blogspot.com/2010/11/links-back-to-nutrition-health.html

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Using Word Games to Create Compos

We did a word association game and got the following words:
banana -> boat -> fishing -> seafood -> eat -> stomach -> pain -> toilet -> waste -> disgusting -> vomit -> doctor -> clinic -> hospital -> sick -> medicine -> recover -> discharge -> home -> rest -> wake up -> sleepy -> wash face -> eat medicine -> water -> television -> boring -> computer -> nothing to play -> read -> shopping -> buy healthy food -> change diet

And we created a compo based on the above key words (P4 class):

Plates of all sizes were on our table. The mouth-watering dishes in front of us excited all at our table, except me. What was supposed to be wafts of hungry-inducing foods created an aching feeling in my stomach. It all happened just a month ago…

“Happy birthday to you! Happy birthday to you! Happy birthday to Michelle! Happy birthday to you!” sang my family as we gathered at a seafood restaurant at East Coast Park to celebrate my birthday. My parents brought my cousins and me to East Coast Park earlier in the day to enjoy some water sports. We canoed and took turns to ride on a jet ski. We also played on a ride called the ‘Banana Boat’ which was actually a float that resembled a banana.

With a grin on my face, I blew out the ten candles on my cake and we proceeded to have dinner. My aunts and uncles went fishing while we were enjoying ourselves and the spread of tantalizing food on the table was the product of their trip. The piping hot dishes were too tempting to resist. I tucked into them with gusto and ate till my heart’s content.

After the meal, we took a stroll in the park in the cool evening breeze and pale moonlight. Suddenly, pain gripped me. A sharp pain in my lower abdomen caught me by surprise. I doubled over in pain, and my parents ran to my aid. I started vomiting and felt like I needed the toilet badly. Soon, all I wished for was to stay in the toilet indefinitely.

My parents got worried and rushed me to the nearest clinic. The doctor examined me and advised my parents to bring me to the nearest hospital instead. Within minutes, I found myself on a hospital bed, being wheeled into a consultation room with a kind doctor. I was immediately given an injection and some oral medication. The medicine tasted horribly bitter, I gulped a lot of water to swallow them quickly. I wanted to spit them out but I knew that they were for me to recover. I took the bitter pills and drifted off to sleep.

When I awoke, I felt much better. My parents had spent the night with me at my bedside and looked tired. I gently nudged them to wake them and asked them to freshen up. The doctor came to review my case and declared that it was food poisoning. My cousins also had the runs but they only needed some medication. I was discharged and went home.

Back home, my mum fussed over me like a baby and cooked some healthy food for me. My dad went to the supermarket to shop for healthy food so that my stomach can recover. I was very bored as there was nothing much to do at home except to watch television programs, play computer games and read. I felt bad to fall ill, and it felt worse to be stuck at home while recovering.

Once bitten, twice shy. I got wary of scrumptious meals from then on.

Friday, November 19, 2010

Links back to Nutrition & Health

Recently received many emails and phone calls/SMSes regarding the above topics. Seems like my old posts got 'lost'.

Reposting the links here:
http://thelittleonesinmylife.blogspot.com/2010/07/supplements-health-food-healthy-diet.html
http://thelittleonesinmylife.blogspot.com/2010/07/nature-vs-nurture.html
http://thelittleonesinmylife.blogspot.com/2010/07/skin-problems-organic-skincare-to.html
http://thelittleonesinmylife.blogspot.com/2010/07/toothpaste-for-infants-and-toddlers.html

For the first time in many many many years...

I was the parent, not the teacher, at a Meet The Parents session.

My son's preschool had a MTP session yesterday. I sort of expected what the teachers might say, but what was told to me was pleasantly surprising.

1. I expected him to be a monkey in class, like he is at home.
The English/Maths teacher said that he behaves very well, sitting quietly and listening attentively to lessons. Likes to join in group activities and has learnt to wait for his turn without fussing.

2. I expected him to not speak or read Chinese.
The Chinese teacher said that he can read many words given the right environment. And when playing games, she deliberately gives him tougher games and he was still able to get the right answers.

Really surprised that he has been a good boy at school. :)
Brought him out for a reward yesterday.

However, the teachers did mention certain things to be improved:
1. He does not like to play/socialise with the other kids his age. He prefers older kids.
2. He can get quite rough with the smaller size kids.

I guess the first point is due to communication. After watching him with some friends yesterday, I realised that he is very advanced in his speech and articulation of his thoughts for his age (never occurred to us before as we seldom have the opportunity to see him with peers his age). As such, he expects his peers to start conversations with him but they don't. However, with his school bus friends who are older, they chat and play like they had known each other since birth. Similarly with my friend's kid who is older than him, they are like best friends when we bring them out together to the zoo or Universal Studios.
Is this the pitfall of being too advanced? Even the English/Maths teacher commented that he speaks better than all the kids his age but he does not like to interact with them. Hopefully this problem will be solved by the time his peers catch up and can start meaningful conversations with him.

Really enjoyed speaking to his teachers because they really know him and understand him. And of course, the Chinese teacher made me rather happy by telling me that she can see that we have put in alot of effort into disciplining him and teaching him at home because he's different from the other preschoolers she has taught all these years. Happy to have a fellow teacher recognise my efforts as a mother. :)

Saturday, November 6, 2010

My encounter with another tutor at Popular Bookstore

I was at Popular yesterday to purchase some books for the new classes which are going to start.

Armed with my shopping list, I darted around Popular with ease, taking the books I needed and placing them in a basket on the floor near the cashier (with my maid tending to it).

Then, an old gentleman saw my pile of books and asked my maid,"Wow! So many books? You have many children?"

My maid simply smiled and looked at me for help. I quickly went over and started a polite conversation with this curious old man. He was browsing some P2 Maths assessment books.

Me: I'm a tutor, these are for my students.
Him: Why don't you wait till end of the month when they will have 20% discount?
Me: My classes are starting soon, I can't afford to wait.
Him: Oh, you have many students?
Me: I teach a few group classes, so it adds up to quite a number of them.
Him: Recently the syllabus is very tough, ya? [Proceeds to show me a heuristic question from a P2 Maths books. It is actually a simple number bond question.]
Me: Actually, these are very common questions. Most of my P2 students are able to handle such questions.
Him: So can you tell me how to solve this question? Explain to me. [In a rather demanding tone.]
Me: [Pointing with my finger at the question.] This and this makes this. You need to add these two numbers to get this answer.
Him: Wow! That is how to solve it? And your students can do it? Means they must be very smart. You only teach students from top schools?
Me: No, I have students coming from all sorts of schools.
Him: You mean you don't screen and choose students? You take whoever that comes to you?
Me: Yes, am I suppose to reject students? I thought the purpose of tutoring is to help students?
Him: I thought that since you students are so smart to solve this type of questions, they should be very smart and you accepted the students selectively.
Me: Oh, I don't do that. Anyway, nice chatting with you. I need to go off as my husband is waiting at the carpark.
Him: [Seems to ignore what I just said.] Since you are a tutor too, you should consider these books. Very good. I've been using them for 10 over years. [Points to Problem Solving Processes - which was only released late last year and some of Andrew Er's books - which were only published in 2004.]
Me: Oh, I've tried some of these [referring to Andrew Er's books], it's not very suitable as it does not go topic by topic and students can't finish the books just before exams.
Him: Is it? I've been using these to teach for 10 over years! No problems!
Me: Maybe it's suitable for individual tuition, but not for me.
Him: [Continues to babble on...]
Me: So sorry, sir. I really need to go. Nice chatting with you.

BTW, many parents overheard our conversation and came to ask for namecard from me. Sad to say, I don't carry namecards with me but I gave them my contact number.




Several question came to my mind:
1. This man is really old. He looks like he is in his 70s. I'm not saying that old people can't be tutors, but based on what he said, it seems like he does not know the current syllabus well. And, he could not even solve the number bond question (he was staring at it for very long before he noticed my pile of books). I'm just appalled at how these people can call themselves tutors! No wonder parents are so antsy about hiring tutors because they won't know if they are getting someone who is unable to even solve P2 number bond questions!

2. Reminds me of another tutor who was canvassing for students at an online forum. He actually questioned me on my mathematical workings and explanation (which I helped another mummy with). And he could not understand the model method (it was a P3 question). Then, in another thread which another parent was asking for help on a maths question, he posted that if anyone needed help with maths questions, can email to him. However, in the third related thread, he actually asked me to email him because he got some maths questions for me to solve. So, what is he trying to do? He ask parents to email him questions, then he email them to me for answers, and reply the parents with my answers which he will claim is his? This is highly unprofessional! To make use of others to gain the trust of parents so that they will hire him as their kid's tutor! And when I exposed him, he simply disappeared from the forum.

No wonder parents now are so anxious about tutors. In the past, I've never encountered parents who wanted to meet me before deciding if they wanted trial lessons. When I first encountered it this year, I was quite taken aback. Now, I start to understand how these parents feel (especially after a few unprofessional tutors who came to teach my boy Chinese too).

Now, I welcome parents to come down for a chat. However, due to my busy schedule, time seems like it's never enough. I would love to speak to parents in detail about their child's weaknesses and what parents can do at home to help boost their child's learning. Hopefully, when 2011 starts, I will have more time with the new schedule. :D

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Invitation by a Publishing House

I've been invited by an established publishing house to write assessment books, and maybe even textbooks. Excited at the chance of having something in produced in print.

However, my main focus will still be my students. Hopefully, the textbook/assessment book writing will give me more insight into the syllabus and make me take a step back to think through about how I can improve the delivery of lessons.

One step at a time. :D

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

More Tips on Helping Your Child Prepare for PSLE

More tips:

1. Healthy diet and healthy bodies. Encourage them to eat healthily (more fruits) and exercise regularly (daddies and mummies, set good examples by spending time playing some sports with them).

2. Positive mindset. Encourage your child to do their best. Understand their limits (well, let's be honest, some children are really A* material and some are not - Aim for the moon so that even if you fail, you land among the stars). Teach them to aim high, but learn to accept disappointment too (most impt!!).

3. Thinking skills. I personally feel that kids these days are really lazy thinkers. One student told me,"Mrs Wong, why must learn to think? Computer will think for us what." -____"-

Question them, even over 'mundane' things like why there's a need for traffic lights. Why don't they just have red and green? Why must there be amber? How effective are the pedestrian crossings? Why have zebra crossings? Why not cow crossings? etc etc

GET THEIR BRAINS THINKING!

4. Sleep well. Most parents I know will enforce strict bedtime, regardless of homework completed or not.

5. SHOW YOUR LOVE & SUPPORT! Love comes in many forms. Make a nice drink while they are studying. Cooking their fave food (as long as it won't cause them to fall ill - like deep fried food). Spending time with them doing leisure activities. Assuring them that you'll be proud of them as long as they put in EFFORT - result is secondary.

I remember my dad showed his 'silent support' by staying up late with me into the nights. He pretended to watch TV - but it was on MUTE cos he did not want to disturb me. Made my fave iced Milo while I studied. Brought me out for nice supper after I'm done with studying (my dad can't cook).

End of the day, remind your kiddos that you love them for who they are.

As long as they did their best, you'll be proud of them no matter what results they get (though we all know that good results at PSLE may mean a better future).

Quoted to be Misquoted

For most parents who are following threads in KSP, you would know about the recent article in The Newpaper.

Well, the quoted the first sentence and last sentence of my post, which makes me sound.... like I was advertising my services. And to quote the article, I was "plugging her (my) services".

I like what one parent posted about "ignoring the ignorant". :)

From this, we learnt:
Take tabloid news with a pinch of salt. They only pick out certain words/phrases/sentences and present a misleading idea. Now I know how the poor celebrities feel (though I'm definitely not one).

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

PSLE is over, and I received an email today....

Mrs Wong,
You are such a terrible teacher. We can never forget what you did to us for the rest of our lives.

Firstly, you made us cry every lesson.
Then, you made us whine every lesson.
Also, you cause us to have sleepless nights before your lessons.
Lastly, you cause us emotional distress!

See how much damage you’ve caused us?

Well, it’s because…

You tell us such funny jokes, we laugh till tears roll down our cheeks, sometimes even roll on the floor in laughter.
You give us homework, which makes us whine every lesson. And you enjoy our whining! The more we whined, the wider your grin! But we know the homework was for us to improve.
You set high standards for us and every night, we lay in bed thinking about how to meet your standards. But you always assured us that we are all of high caliber and should be meeting your high standards.
Now, we miss you so much that we are emotionally distressed after PSLE. No more lessons with you!

Could you please open a S1 prep class for us?
Like teach us some new topics for S1 to prepare us?
Pretty please?
We know you miss us alot too!

<3
The JK gang

 
Dear JK gang,
You have no idea how much I'm missing all of you too!
Love,
Your PAPAYA-loving teacher :D

Saturday, October 9, 2010

Compo by Sharleyne (P5)

It was the last day of school. Friday the thirteenth.

There were numerous horror movies on television that day. I decided to catch a show as my parents went out together, leaving my younger brother and me along at home.

Feeling hungry, I cooked instant noodles for both of us and settled in front of the television to enjoy our noodles and the scary movie. We were tucking into our delicious noodles when we heard a knock. Our chopsticks were frozen in mid-air with noodles dangling down.

Fear and excitement was creeping into us. The horror movie we were watching was a show on ghosts and we started to suspect that there could be one just at our door! We plucked up courage and held hands to check out the ghost. We gingerly stepped over to the door, afraid that any sudden noise might cause the ghost to attack us.

Then, it was pitch black. We shivered at the thought of the ghost coming at us and started to grope around to our bedroom. Having learnt from the movies we watched, we started grabbing some equipments which made previously. The rice bag was to be used as a ghost catcher, trapping ghosts inside as when confined in a small area, they were unable to escape.

We took what we needed and headed towards the main door clumsily. This time, we were sure that we could catch the ghost. Taking in a deep breathe as if air gave me courage, I turned the knob and flung the door open.

It was there. Alone. A large box. Nicely wrapped with ribbons.

Puzzled, we dropped our equipments and stepped out of the house. As soon as we did so, two men emerged from the darkness and snatched my brother away! I ran as quickly as I could and pushed the man holding my brother but he was too strong. The other man pulled me back and pushed me into the house.

Back inside the house, they tied us up to the dining chairs and taped our mouths. Then, they started to raid the house for valuables. Afraid that my parents would blame us for opening the door to burglars, I started to brainstorm about how I could alert my neighbours for help.

Then it struck me. I started fidgetting. Rocking the chair to and fro. It slowly moved nearer to the wall. Then, in a desperate move, I throw myself with the chair against the wall to cause a loud crash. My shoulders ached as they hit the wall, then the floor. However, it was worth it.

Within a few minutes, my neighbour, Mr Lee, came over to check. He saw the door wide open and suspected that something was amiss. He came into the house and saw us tied up in the corner with the pale light streaming in from the corridor. Without hestitation, he walked stealthily over to us and hide in the darkness. He took out his mobile phone and sent a short message to his wife to inform the police while he kept watch on us.

The burglars were too engrossed in my parents' bedroom as they found the safe. They were making a such a ruckus that they did not hear the commotion in the living room.

Our brave saviours in blue arrived. Armed with batons and handcuffs, they were ready to arrest the burglars. We signalled which room they were in and the policemen hide outside out the door. Once the men appeared, the policemen pounced on them and pinned them to the ground.

Teeth clattering from the cold of the night and the fright we got, Mr Lee's wife wrapped us up in a thick blanket and took us to her house. She called our parents and they rushed home to comfort us.

Ever since then, our parents did not dare to leave us alone at home. We often head over to Mr and Mrs Lee's place for dinner and they would babysit us. A burglary helped us to discover such caring and helpful neighbours.

Saturday, October 2, 2010

Assessment Books for SALE!

More than 100 assessment books for sale!
From K1 till PSLE:
http://mw-booksale.blogspot.com/

Our actions & stress can rub off our kids

As PSLE is approaching, I noticed that many students are starting to stress up.
However, it is not because they are really stressed but it's the stress that their parents are giving them - directly or indirectly.

Stress has its pros and cons.
A small amount of stress can enable a person to be more focused and finish any tasks at hand.
However, too much stress can cause panic attacks or mental blocks.

How much stress is too much?
Everyone has different stress-appetites and parents should be able to tell how much stress their children can take.
However, we often fail to realise that our actions and behaviour also affects our children.

Recently, I've been getting many requests for extra lessons due to the upcoming PSLE.
For most of them, they do not need that extra lessons as they've already acquired what they need to know and now should be a time for them to rest and mentally prepare themselves for the battle ahead, not stressing out their bodies physically and mentally with tuition after tuition.

One of my students cried during my class. She told me that she had 5 different tuitions that day and by the 3rd lesson (my lesson), she was already struggling to pay attention and her mind was already 'zoned out'.
Another student complained that his hand was very painful after doing 5 questions of S&T during my lesson. Upon further questioning, I found out that his mother had forced him to finish alot of work just before the lesson and he was heading home after my lesson for another tutor's lesson that his place!

Parents must understand:
零时抱佛脚 (hugging Budhha's leg at the last minute) does not help at all.
Consistent learning with adequate rest and play is more important for the mental and physical health of children. Also, time management is important.

Instead of cramping more tuition lessons at the last minute, parents should consider some leisure activities like a simple board game to relax or simply bringing your children out for a nice dinner without any talk about schoolwork or exams.

A refreshed mind can do better than a worn out mind.

I encourage all students to rest the day before their papers. If they had a paper earlier that day, take a hearty lunch to replenish energy, a nice shower to relax and forget the worries about the previous paper and TAKE A GOOD NAP!
If one really wants to revise, it should be reading up on past mistakes or reading up on notes that teacher has provided. Not madly trying to complete all the practice papers or assessment books.

Parents, remember to give your kids a break.
We want the best for them but we will still love them no matter what results they get, right?
Assure your kids that you'll still love them and be proud of them because they've put in the effort.
Being confident and assured is half the battle won.

Kids in P4 & 5 this year, you better start your engines running so that it'll be smooth by P6.

BEST WISHES TO ALL STUDENTS TAKING PSLE THIS YEAR!

Saturday, September 18, 2010

Well Done Jo!!!

Another sample compo written by my student. She started creative writing lessons with me in Nov 09. This compo was written by her in Mar 10.
She's from a popular school in Tampines and is in P6 this year. She scored 36/40 for this composition.

I was sentenced to five years in jail when I was twenty. Now, at the age of twenty-five, I am being released. I decided to turn over a new leaf and be a successful lawyer. I have a pair of twin brothers, aged ten. Every night, they would request for a story told my me. Once, they asked me to tell them about my experience being a burglar. I paused, as memories flashed before me. [Flashback Technique]

It was a still and silent night. I looked around to see if anyone was watching us while my partner tried to force open the lock of the gate. Being an inexperienced burglar, I did not wear a cap, nor dark sunglasses to conceal my identity. My partner was well-versed in the art of concealment. He was covered from head to toe and not even a hint of skin was visible. The owner of the house was on a vacation to America, and we knew that he was loaded.

Unknown to us, a lady had spotted us and called the police. However, we were much quicker. As soon as the gate was pried open, we ran into separate rooms and my partner started to open drawer after drawer, pulling out everything that he saw and tossing the items carelessly on the floor. In the other room, I was gasping as my eyes widened at the sight of glittering jewellery and wades of notes. After we gathered a large sack of loot, I slung it over my shoulders and poured kerosene all over. We quickly ran out and climbed over the fence. By then, police sirens were blaring louder and louder. I quickly lit a match and threw it over the fence. The flames from the backyard had spread quickly, until the whole house was engulfed in flames. My partner and I ran as fast as our legs could carry us, as if our predators were catching up with us.

We hid in a friend's house, following our plan. From his house, we could see the team of police officers surrounding the house. And also, the residents from neighbouring houses have formed a swelling crowd in front of the house. The sirens wailed as the fire engines sailed down the street. Residents in the neighbouring houses were evacuated as the fire raged on. The firemen quickly grabbed their hoses and battled furiously to save the burning house.

My heart was thumping fast. I felt a deep sense of guilt. At that moment, I decided to turn myself in. [Twist] I looked out of the window once again. A woman was giving details to the policeman. Without hesitation, I dropped the sack of loot and walked towards the crowd. The crowd gave way and like a robot, I walked towards the policeman. The lady, who was giving details, pointed at me and said in Chinese, "It's him! It's him!"

"Yes, officer. I'm the one," as soon as I finished my sentence, the policeman handcuffed me and brought me to the police station for interrogation.

I was then sentenced to give years in jail while my partner got away with his crime. I have not heard from him, even up till today. I am now studying in a university, starting my life anew.

By the time I had finished my story, my two brothers had dozed off. I stood up, switched off the lights and went back to my room. I sat at my study table and began writing. I wrote a story about myself, my life story.

Comments by her school teacher:
Well-written. You used a alot of 'Look, Say, Do' technique.
Story was simple yet vivid enough to form a picture in the reader's mind.
Keep it up!

Composition Writing

Just realised that I've written an article on KSP quite some time ago.
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/content/more-composition-writing-tips

My suggestions to parents (things that I usually do with my tutees):




Make them start a journal

If they are the type that do not know what to write, give them a topic a day. I usually start off with giving them pictures (can be anything under the sun!) with some questions as prompts. Then there'll be a list of helping words/phrases related to the topic.



Depending on your child's age, you can get them to start with 10 sentences per day (P1/2) and slowly get them to increase the number of sentences. It's ok if their sentences seem very random & do not link at the beginning.

Start off with correcting basic grammar & spelling. Then if you spot a sentence that can be improved with better vocab or phrase, teach them & get them to jot it down in their journal.

You can also let your child take pictures whenever you go out & use those pictures as the topics. It'll be easier for them this way as they have personally experienced what they saw in the picture. You can also use photos from family trips, childhood photos, etc.

Read out loud

Children who do not like to read usually have problems with the words, which makes them hate reading in the first place. Ask your child to read out loud to you. If they are shy, start off with you reading 1 sentence, then they will read the next and alternate.

They feel less self-conscious if you are also reading with them & once you note pauses (meaning they do not know the word), quickly help them before they start to feel frustrated. Praise them & assure them that they are doing a good job. Not only are you encouraging reading, you are also encouraging them to practice their oral skills! Where to find so many passages to read?

You can buy model composition books or buy comprehension books & read the passages (the latter is better as the topics are usually general knowledge topics & it will help them in cloze passages & comprehension). Discuss about the topic of the passage you read. Prompt them with questions like:

"Do you think ___ did the right thing?"

"Was he brave/courageous by doing that?", etc.

If you spot difficult words, search the dictionary with them. It's a good skill to learn - searching the dictionary for meaning of words. It makes them curious & they are always amazed at how some words can have so many meanings!

Play a game

Play word games with your child. Start off with a word & the next person must give another word that has the same meaning or is related (e.g. butterfly -> wings -> colourful -> rainbow -> green -> leaves). Keep going till someone is stuck. It's very fun & their competitive spirit will spur them to learn more words. It also trains their minds to link objects/descriptions.

You can also write down the words (encourage them to spell) & make use of the words to form a sentence or story! Although the sentences/stories may seem 'crazy', it's really fun & gives them something to think about.

Self questioning technique

Who? What? When? Where? Why? How?

Usually we will teach children to write 3 paragraphs - Introduction, Body & Conclusion. But do the kids understand what is expected in each paragraph?

This is what a typical story would be like:

Introduction -> Who is in the story? When/Where did it happen?

Body (can be more than 1 paragraph) -> What happened? Why did it happen?

Conclusion -> How was the matter resolved? Closing sentence.

Sample written by my P5 student [Topic - Describe what happened when you were late for a very important event.]:






Perspiration was trickling down the sides of my [WHO] face, every step causes a drop that was dangling at my chin to splatter on the tar road. It was the day of my PSLE examination [WHEN] & I was on my way to school [WHERE]. I was pushing myself to run as fast as my legs could take me as it was 10 minutes before my first paper was about to start. As I was running, I started to reflect. I knew it was entirely my fault that I'm late, but I could not help but hold resentment towards them. The two immature & spoilt children whom I have to call my siblings [WHO].






I woke up this morning thinking it was six in the morning. The room was dark, the air was fresh and most importantly, my trusty clock had it's shorter hand pointing at six and its longer hand in the opposite direction. A quick check with the living room clock and my heart skipped a beat. It was actually 8am! I scurried back into my room, fantically changing my clothes, suddenly noticing my two younger brothers giggling at the bedroom door.






"What are you laughing it? I'm late for a major exam that determines the rest of my life and the two of you are giggling! You must have something to do with this!" I yelled in frustration. I guess my tone was nasty as my youngest brother started crying.






"We played with your clock last night after you feel asleep and we thought it would be fun to make you late for school since you slept so early," my youngest brother mumbled feebly with his knees shaking. [WHAT/WHY]






So it was them. I should have gotten my parents to wake me up. I should have gotten my friends to ring me in the morning. I cannot help but smack myself in the head, ignoring the fact that I'll be killing some much-needed brain cells. It was my fault for not making back-up plans in case the clock fails, but why must they play with my clock of all days?






I made up my mind to grill my siblings on the barbeque or tie them up on a tree after my examinations. For now, I'll have to run harder. The school gate was in sight! I dashed past security, past the school office & up into the school hall. 300 pairs of eyes suddenly suddenly looked up at me, all sweaty & disheveled. I had arrived in the nick of time, the teachers were just about to start the examination. I quickly took my seat and focused on the paper in front of me.






After the paper, I went straight home & called my parents. I was too tired with deal with my brothers physically. I told them everything over the phone and took a nap. When I woke up, I could hear screaming and crying. "Piak!" came the sound of the cane. I ran out of my room to take a look. My parents were caning my brothers for their mischief. My heart ached as I saw the cane land on their bottoms.






I quickly ran over to shield my brothers. My brothers clung to me like koala bears on a tree. Their faces were smeared with tears & mucus, their hands riddled with cane marks. Although they did cause me to be late for my examination, I still loved them. I begged my parents to stop as I've already forgiven them. After drying their tears & comforting them, I told them about the dire consequences if I had been a little later. They apologised and promised never to be mischevious again. [HOW] I also made a silent resolution to ensure that I have back up plans whenever I have something important [CLOSING SENTENCE].



May not be the best compo, but she managed to use some techniques I practised with her in which I'm pleased as this is a student who used to fail composition.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Teacher's Day

Today is Teacher's Day. I'm wishing all TEACHERS and MUMMIES/DADDIES a super happy Teacher's Day. :D


I spent the past two weeks compiling notes for my PSLE students.
The verbal instructions I've been telling them simply 'vanished'. They decided that they need physical notes to read and remind themselves about what has been taught.

I love their enthusiasm. When I showed them the set of notes for Synthesis & Transformation (it's 46 pages of notes!), they were squealing and treated it like gold. At that moment, I realised that my efforts were not in vain. I smiled proudly to myself and motivated myself to create more notes for them.

The countless presents were heartening. The best was the appreciative 'thanks' that came from their hearts. I love those kids to bits! What will I do without them?

The messages on their cards make me tear. I'm glad I made the right choice.
I simply can't imagine my life without the little precious ones blessing me, enriching me and teaching me.
I've learnt alot from them and will continue to do so. Thank you little darlings :) Study hard for your exams! The best present you can give yourself, your family and me will be results reflective of your abilities :)

Monday, August 30, 2010

Exams Exams Exams

Life is full of exams - in different forms.

PSLE is one of the earlier academic exams that many are afraid of.
Good grades equate a good future whereas poor grades results in demoralised children who may give up on their studies totally.

One way parents can help their children to face PSLE: Help them realise that it's not 'THE END'.
If one gets good grades, it's the start of a challenging academic career. Filled with competition with others of the same calibre. Striving to stay on top.
If one does not get good grades, it's the start of a challenging climb. The climb to beat those who have succeeded earlier. The climb to the top.

By 'top', I do not mean getting first in class or getting some award. It simply means to do the best one can achieve.

We need to learn to accept our children for who they are. They may not score As, but they may be great comedians. Learning to love themselves and work hard for themselves, for their own families, for their own future is something that parents need to instill in them from young.

Sadly, I see many students who lack focus. Parents are too busy to understand their kids. Parents are too busy being 'perfect parents' to step back and see what might be a better option for their children.

I'm still learning as my boy grows. Hopefully, I will be that parent that is proud of every achievement my son has - even if it may mean nothing to others.

Thursday, August 19, 2010

[SOLD] Books for sale (2 copies)

SOLD

I accidentally bought 2 extra copies of the same book. They are brand new (I just recieved them yesterday).

Selling them off at loss. $6 per copy (includes normal mail).

This book is suitable for K1 - P2 (depending on their reading abilities).
Children classics are a great way to teach them about values and also spur their imagination.
Some of the stories in this books are popular and well-known stories.







Do email me (mrswong.tuition@gmail.com) if you are keen.

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Tuition = Spoonfeeding?

Recently read a comment that parents who give their children tuition are spoonfeeding them and causing them to be 'weak' and unable to apply what they learnt in the workplace.

This got me thinking about the effects of tuition. Would it be positive or negative?
It really boils down to individual teacher/tutor.

I do not advocate spoon-feeding. Students who come to me know that I will never spoon feed them with answers. I will probe and prod to get them to think of the answer. If there is really a need to show the entire working/solution, I will print similar questions and ask them to attempt on their own, to make sure that they can apply the concept on their own.

I have a variety of students who come to me for tuition. Some really need the extra help (no one speaks English at home and he has been failing English). Some come for something 'extra' (already scoring 90++ for all subjects).

Regardless of their 'purpose' of tuition, I try to stretch them. For those scoring well, we sometimes do 'out of the box' stuff together (making ice cream and explaning the science behind it, challenging each other with IQ maths questions, etc).

At the end of the day, parents must ensure that their child is not spoonfed by the tutor or the parents themselves if they do not advocate spoonfeeding them with answers.
Certain enrichment classes really push the kids to think and discover on their own (with scaffolding).

Don't be too quick to put down tuition or enrichment classes. Take some time to discover their methods and based on the feedback you manage to get from the teacher/tutor, you would also know if the child is benefitting (by benefitting, I do not mean academic results alone - rapport with teacher/tutor is also important).

Saturday, July 31, 2010

Bach Flower Remedies - Natural Stress Remedies

Ever wondered about TCM but worried that your child may not drink it due to the smell/taste?

Many have not heard of Bach Flower Essences but it's proven effective for my family and students (& even my dog).
It's mostly odourless and colourless, just a few drops into your daily drinking water is enough.
The kids won't even realise that it's there!

There is a large range of different flowers with different properties. You can read more here: http://www.bachflower.com/.

"The Bach® Flower Remediesare 100% safe and natural and work in conjunction with herbs, homeopathy and medications. They are safe for everyone, including children, pregnant women, pets, elderly and even plants." ~ Quoted from http://www.bachflower.com/

Tried & Tested Remedies:
Rescue Remedy http://www.bachflower.com/Rescue_Remedy.htm
"This combination of Bach Flower Remedies is especially beneficial when you find yourself in traumatic situations, such as, stress, emergencies, after getting bad news, before an exam or job interview and all other kind of situations where we suddenly lose balance mentally. The Remedies quickly get us back in our normal balance so that we calmly can deal with any situation."
I normally give this to students before examinations. It helps to calm their nerves and allow them to be able to compose themselves for the big battle.

Cerato
"Those who have not sufficient confidence in themselves to make their own decisions. They constantly seek advice from others, and are often misguided" - Dr. Edward Bach

Clematis
"Those who are dreamy, drowsy, not fully awake, no great interest in life. Quiet people, not really happy in their present circumstances, living more in the future than in the present; living in hopes of happier times when their ideals may come true. In illness some make little or no effort to get well, and in certain cases may even look forward to death, in the hope of better times; or maybe, meeting again some beloved one whom they have lost." - Dr. Edward Bach

Hornbeam
"For those who feel that they have not sufficient strength, mentally or physically, to carry the burden of life placed upon them; the affairs of every day seem too much for them to accomplish, though they generally succeed in fulfilling their task. For those who believe that some part, of mind or body, needs to be strengthened before they can easily fulfill their work." - Dr. Edward Bach

The complete list of the usages of different flower essences: http://www.bachflower.com/38_Essences.htm

I normally purchase them online from here: http://www.iherb.com/Bach-Original-Flower-Essences
(USE YAF688 for US$5 off your first purchase!)

It's cheaper than purchasing from shops in SG. For those who are skeptical about online shopping or want to check out the real product before purchasing, you can get them from BROWN RICE PARADISE at TANGLIN MALL.

Friday, July 30, 2010

Teaching your child to read open his/her eyes to the world

Reading is a precious gift.
A child who can read can explore the wonders of books and magazines.
Reading can transport a child into an imaginary world.
Reading can allow a child to learn from the character's experiences and mistakes.

As a kiasu parent, I placed reading as a priority for my son.
Watching him pick up a book, reading every word accurately without help, is extremely rewarding.
No words can describe that feeling - when you realise your little baby is an independant reader and will go on to explore books on his own, diving into fantasy worlds and learning about past events.

How to get a 3yo to read?
Honestly, I never taught it would be possible.
When I bought books, I always harboured the thought that he'll only start reading them when he's 5yo or older. However, that did not stop me. I went on mad book sprees, buying whole sets of phonics readers, sight word readers, etc etc. Anything that I could get my hands on, I bought. My husband thought that I was mad. I convinced him that being surrounded by books (though he still couldn't read) will have a positive effect. And it did.

When he was younger, he would simply flip through the books to look at the pictures. We sorted out the books:
- Picture books (or books with interesting pictures)
- Simple phonics books
- Simple sight word books
- Tougher story books (sorted by difficulty level)

Picture books and simple phonics books were placed on the lower shelves, within easy reach.
As he flipped through the books, we pointed to the words and read clearly and slowly to him.

There are generally 2 methods to teach reading: Phonics & Sight Words.
I'm kiasu. We used both methods.

Phonics was picked up watching a very entertaining DVD: Leapfrog Letter Factory.
Followed with Word Factory and Code Word Caper.
He attended phonics lessons but what they were teaching was so basic, he went there to play, not to learn.

Sight words were learnt through DVDs and flashcards (DIY).
Simply go to Popular, get a book called 'High Frequency Words' and they have flashcards that come with the book too. 128 common words, sorted out into 4 terms and activities to match.
Then, get a pack of cards (around 250 - 300 gsm, A4 size will do) from Popular (near the shelves where they place the construction papers). Get a thick marker (preferably red or black). Write down common sight words on the cards and let your child play with them.

My son did not like use to 'flash' the cards like GD method. He loved touching the cards, flipping them himself. So be it. As he looked at each card, point and read to him. Yes, he did try eating the cards. We stopped him. He did try bending the cards, we stopped him too. After a while, he realised that the cards have to be handled with care. No bending, no eating, no drawing on it.

When outside, point and read whatever words/signboards you can. Get them interested in the words around them. It's FREE and FUN!

Make up silly songs to spell out words so that they can recognise the words too.
"One, One - O. N. E!
Two, Two - T. W. O!
...."
(Sung to 'Lu Lu Skip to my Lu')


Reading is really fun! You don't need alot of money or knowledge to empower your child with reading. Simply read with your child and encourage your child to read the simple words to you first.
Encouragement helps them to build up their confidence to read!

Also, set an example. Get a few books for yourself and start reading.
Children learn my example and you will be amazed when your child wants to read, just like you!

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Empire Food Tingkat Lunch Review


Tingkat Lunch which was delivered on 21/7/2010 by Empire Food (http://www.empirefood.com.sg/) Ordered for 1 pax, $130 + $10 (rice) + $10 (microwavable containers, 20 days
(very flexi about which days, you can even choose once a week! I chose thrice a week, Monday, Wednesday, Friday)
The guy I spoke to over the phone was also very patient in answering my questions and extremely polite.

3 dishes and 1 soup (before opening):
 

















After opening:
















The soup:



Delicious and tasty soup.
Loved the way they sealed it (like bubble tea).
Have ordered order tingkat before and they've always spilt the soup but this packaging is great.
Confirm no spillage!

 



















2 large pieces of pork ribs. Loads of wolfberries floating around.
Definitely no MSG as I did not get more thirsty after drinking the whole bowl.



Upclose on the dishes:















Scallop (imitation) with vegetables
Nice gravy!
And for 1 pax share, I consider this rather generous as there were 4 pieces of scallops :)
















Pork Chop
Soft and well marinated.
Abit salty when eaten alone but with rice, it was perfect!
















Long Beans!
I love love love long beans.
The long beans were just nice, cooked but not too soft.
Still have some crunch and it's not yellow or smelling funky.
And it's not oily or salty. Very simple dish and it went well with the other dishes.


Overall, the dishes were nice.
The rice was a little dry but that was quickly fixed by dousing it with the soup.
The portions were huge. I only managed to finish slightly less than 1/2 and kept the rest for hubs to try when he came back for dinner. He liked it too! He's considering ordering it for lunch at his office since the canteen there is exp and the food isn't nice.

I would definitely order them again after these 20 days cycle is over (last day for this cycle is 3 Sep!)
Worth the price :) And definitely can be given to kids (my boy is 3.5yo).

Friday, July 16, 2010

Discovering Reading

Just yesterday morning, my son was reading aloud. I thought that I was hearing things. He was reading clearly and it was a proper story.

Stunned, I walked out of my bedroom, half-awake.
There he was, holding a book, seated on the sofa. It was the weekly storybook his school puts in his school bag to encourage the kids to read.

I was AMAZED. He could actually read the words without help!
There's some repetition but he could point out the words and read them clearly.

Upon finishing the book, he got a round of applause from my maid and me. He looked so proud.
Immediately, he dashed off to his room and picked another book.
HE WAS HUNGRY FOR MORE!

Well, he did not learn to read overnight. It was consistent hard work from us at home and the teachers at school.


What did we do with him?
We do not have a fixed 'structure' or 'syllabus' to teach him. It was more of experiental learning :)
  1. I created my own set of flashcards on PPT. One set had pictures on one slide with the corresponding words on the next slide. The other set had purely words only. It was more for expansion of vocabulary rather than reading (especially the pictures ones), but he picked up and recognised certain words from there. However, being a FTWM, I only have weekends to show this to him. And not all weekends as some weekends are spent at my mum's place. So, I printed out the softcopies into proper flashcards. Expensive but worth the effort as he likes handling the cards too.
  2. We bought some books that came with flashcards (sight words) from Popular Bookstore. He loved the colourful cards and used to play with them by just flipping through them and building 'houses' with the cards. Well, we did not flash the cards to him like recommended methods of Glenn Doman/Shichida. We simply read the word on the card which he was holding and looking at. 
  3. I ordered some DVDs/VCDs on sight words and phonics. He simply loves them. His fave: LEAPFROG SERIES. He learnt all his phonics from there. He's able to do simple blending now and we do emphasize on that with him. 
  4. Spell out any word he is interested in. He recently started to love pizza. Everytime he sees a pizza, he'll get so excited. Then we will spell 'pizza' (usually in a self-created, silly tune) and he will remember it very well! We tried this at the supermarket with fruits and numbers and it worked very well. He can spell from 1-12 and can also spell many other fruits. Not a consciencious effort to force him to learn to spell, just a fun tune while he's exposed to the particular item!

Exposure is key and even if they do not seem interested at first, link reading to their fave topics/cartoons and they will start to love it!

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Learning the Abacus

My parents gave me weird looks when I told them that I'm taking up abacus.

My colleagues asked me if I'm mad.

My husband told me to do it if I like it.

My students thought I'm so cool to learn abacus at my age.

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My purpose for learning the abacus is actually to coach my own son.
Why coach him personally when there are so many abacus classes out there?
Main reason: I could not find any suitable classes near us (in terms of location and timing). It's either that they do not take in kids so young or they do not have enough students to start the class.

So, I'm taking up the challenge.
Learning from scratch and obtaining Mental Grade 4 and Abacus Grade 5 within 1.5 months is not easy.

It took me 3 lessons (usual is 5 lessons) to obtain Mental Grade 7 and Abacus Grade 8. Quite good for a beginner (according to the principal teaching me).

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Has abacus been useful to me?

YES! I noticed that I'm able to concentrate and focus better. Now, I can do mental calculations in a very noisy environment. I've learnt to shut off any distractions and focus on what I'm doing!

Even better, my mental calculation is so fast that I'm faster than my P5/6 students who are using the calculator. They just can't figure out how I did it! So I'm gaining a different form of respect from them too.

Don't worry about them not being able to use the school's method and such. I'm learning 3G Abacus (a patented system in SG - http://www.3gabacus.com/). It's incorporating number bonds like what they are teaching in Primary school.

After learning it for myself, I do see the relevance towards Singapore's Maths syllabus. I encourage students who have learnt it to make use of it to check their answers (I still make them write down every single step). And it's very similar to the method we teach in P3 to do mental calculations.

After I've mastered it, I hope to further enhance this unique abacus system to allow students to incorporate it into story/problem sums. And I really do hope that this would come true very soon!

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Toothpaste for infants and toddlers?

I used to use Biotene's Baby First Teeth Toothpaste (Apple-Banana Flavour). However, their stock was unstable and prices in Singapore is crazy!

When he was around 1.5yo, we changed to: http://www.iherb.com/Jason-Natural-Earth-s-Best-Toddler-Toothpaste-Free-Gum-Brush-Strawberry-and-Banana-1-6-oz-50-g/17265?at=0
This is suitable for 6mths onwards :)

One of the deciding factors was because this product is ORGANIC, no flouride, no preservatives. It is from natural FOOD GRADE ingredients.

Now that he's older, we've switched to this:
http://www.iherb.com/Jason-Natural-Kids-Only-Toothpaste-Strawberry-4-2-oz-119-g/16292?at=0
This is suitable for 2yo onwards :)

He loves it and will not resist brushing his teeth.
We've taught him to gargle and spit but he does swallow occasionally, so we feel that it's still better to get an organic/food grade toothpaste for him at the moment. Might change when he's older (like around 6yo).


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Skin Problems? ORGANIC SKINCARE TO THE RESCUE!

Organic skin care

His shampoo: http://www.iherb.com/Jason-Natural-Kids-Only-Extra-Gentle-Shampoo-17-5-fl-oz-517-ml/6204?at=0
This smells so great. My sweaty boy can still smell so sweet & yummy that I wanna eat him!
Grape smell

His bodywash: http://www.iherb.com/Nature-s-Baby-Organics-Shampoo-Body-Wash-Lavender-Chamomile-16-fl-oz-473-ml/21540?at=0
-> This is for the night bath cos the lavender and chamomile helps him to 'wind down' & relax to get ready for bed

http://www.iherb.com/Rainbow-Research-Baby-Oh-Baby-Organic-Herbal-Body-Wash-8-fl-oz/9067?at=0
-> this is for his morning/afternoon shower.
Contains lemongrass (which my mum's friend says is good for the skin, esp skin probs).

- Moisturise 3 times a day
He's using a lotion recommended by the doctor at NSC. Physiogel lotion.
Usually stock up when they have the twin pack promo.

He's no longer on follow up with the NSC doctor because there has not been any flare ups for the past 1yr plus

Diaper rash

Due to his ezcema, he had very bad diaper rash

We used Drapolene (no help at all), Desitin Creamy (hard to wash) and Pureen diaper cream (not too bad). But then we found CANUS GOAT'S MILK DIAPER RASH CREAM (bought from Amazon.com). It's superb!

Cleared up his diaper rash, then subsequently, no more diaper rash! And it's cheap. 1 tub is S$25 (include shipping). That 1st tub, is still in use today Last us for 3yr+.



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Nature VS Nurture

Common question that many parents ask me: "How did you teach your boy?  Is it inherited? Or nurtured?"

I really don't know. All I know is that I do my best as a parent.

When I was pregnant/breastfeeding, I took alot of fish and fish oils. Research has shown that increased DHA does help to increase mental capabilities.

So, I'm a kiasu mother, loaded up on those.

My recommendation: http://www.iherb.com/New-Chapter-Wholemega-Prenatal-500-mg-90-Softgels/22651?at=0

It is from 100% WILD Alaskan Salmon.

WILD fishes have lower toxins like mercury or other heavy metals. So you need not worry about indirectly taking in toxins which might harm your baby.
This is good for preggie & BF mummies.

Well, I'm not breastfeeding anymore, but I still keep up this kiasu regime.

This is what I started for my boy: http://www.iherb.com/Childlife-Cod-Liver-Oil-Strawberry-Flavor-8-fl-oz-237-ml/8521?at=0
But he did not like strawberry flavour, so we changed to: http://www.iherb.com/Nordic-Naturals-Arctic-Cod-Liver-Oil-Orange-Flavor-16-fl-oz-473-ml/4192?at=0
Now I've changed to this: http://www.iherb.com/Twinlab-Norwegian-Cod-Liver-Oil-Unflavored-Flavor-12-fl-oz-355-ml/2417?at=0
Main reason for change is because this brand is certified free from heavy metals :)

Again, being extremely kiasu, I did not leave it up to 'nature'. We sent him for numerous classes, taught him at home and carefully selected his kindy. Teaching him at home is really fun. Exposure to wide range of vocab, encouraging him to speak up, creating games to play with him, etc etc.

Even if you have a tight budget, the key is EXPOSURE. Bring them to the park to learn about insects, plants and small animals that live there. It's free (probably pay for transport if the park is not near your place). Bring them to the supermarket to learn about fruits, vegetables, objects, etc etc. Supermarkets are the best place to learn the names of different items. It's FREE plus the kids get to TOUCH the items

Plus, I bought alot of educational CDs (VCDs, CD Rom) for him. When my maid is busy and has to cook/do housework, she will turn on for him to watch. Now, he has learnt to turn on the TV & DVD player himself. He will choose his own disks and play them to watch.


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Don't forget to use discount code YAF688 to get US$5 off your first purchase!
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Supplements? Health Food? Healthy Diet?

My son is currently 3.5yo. Breastfed baby until 18mths old and entered CCC once he turned 18mths.

2 months before he started CCC, my hubby and I decided to give him supplements to boost his immune system as I was running out of breastmilk at that time too (I stopped expressing/latching when he was 1yo. From 1yo till 18mths old, he was drinking frozen EBM which I managed to stock up in our chest freezer).

I actually chanced across iHerb while searching for Organic Mother's Milk (to help boost my breastmilk supply). Cheap and reliable :)

My usual shopping hunts for ORGANIC or NATURAL products:

- Supplements/Toothpaste/Shampoo/Bodywash/Snacks:
http://www.iherb.com/
(Use YAF688 for US$5 discount)
This website is reliable. I've been purchasing from them since JAN 2007. Loyal customer due to their reliability and efficiency. They direct ship to SG through normal mail (for light items) or DHL. DHL has been very flexi with delivery timings, even had a special delivery to me at midnight before cause I requested for them to send it to me immediately.
EXPIRY DATES for products all clearly listed on the website. Great for those who like to stock up (like me).

- Organic food: NTUC (AMK Hub), Brown Rice Paradise (Tanglin Mall)

- Occasionally: Vitakids (Paragon) -> They have the same things as iHerb. Sometimes too urgent and iHerb needs at least 3-5 workings days, so I will buy from Vitakids first. Price is 30-50% higher than buying from iHerb (include shipping charges).

In 2007, I started buying from iHerb.com. However, at that time, they did not have international shipping and we had to go through 3rd party shipping forwarders (www.vpost.com.sg or www.borderlinx.com). It added to the cost. Then in 2008, they started to offer international shipping, which meant that they shipped DIRECT TO US! I was hooked and have been purchasing from them ever since. I personally have recommended many mummies to purchase from them too and they have given me very positive feedback!


Let me share more information about the products I purchase regularly:

At first, we started off with this supplement: http://www.iherb.com/Childlife-Colostrum-with-Probiotics-Orange-Pineapple-Flavor-50-g-Powder-1-7-oz/10630?at=0
(FYI: GNC is selling this exact same product for $70+, even with their massive member discounts, you can't match the price you get from iHerb!)
Now, we've changed to this brand (cheaper due to large pack): http://www.iherb.com/Symbiotics-Colostrum-Plus-Powder-1-lb-5-oz/4091?at=0
They also have pill form for adults: http://www.iherb.com/Symbiotics-Colostrum-Plus-Capsules-240-Capsules/4090?at=0

It's COLOSTRUM and it's known to boost immune systems, just like how breastmilk helps to boost immune systems.
After my boy started, his CCC teachers commented to us on many occasions that my boy did not fall sick at all though many others kids are ill (cough and runny noses). They said that on an average, young kids who attend CCC will fall ill at least once a month. However, during his 1.5 years at that CCC, he only fell ill 3 times. Once was HFMD (very mild) and the other two times were bouts of flu where he was still active but we decided not to send him to school so that he won't spread it to other kids.
A few other mummies from a motherhood forum have also given positive feedback ever since they started their kids on it. In fact, they were so impressed they bought the pills for themselves and loved it. Feedback from them is that they do not fall ill as often (she mentioned she used to have constant sore/itchy throat) and do not feel as tired all the time.


Another product I love:
http://www.iherb.com/Nature-s-Way-Sambucus-for-Kids-Berry-Flavored-8-fl-oz-240-ml/9342?at=0
It contains POLLEN, which is not recommended for young children as some might be allergic.

Another brand which is also sambucol but no pollen added:
http://www.iherb.com/Sambucol-Black-Elderberry-Immune-System-Support-Liquid-For-Kids-Berry-Flavored-4-fl-oz-120-ml/16697?at=0

Both brands are available at VitaKids if you are keen to take a look at the actual products. Due to the urgency at that time, we purchased our first bottle from VitaKids (so exp). Subsequently, we actually ordered from iHerb :)

In 2008, my son had a mild bout of HFMD. Someone in another forum recommended SAMBUCOL (Black Elderberry). This was very effective when my boy had HFMD. His symptoms were super mild and he ate, played and misbehaved as usual. Usually kids will suffer alot during HFMD with ulcers in the mouth/throat, unable to eat, unable to rest well, etc. My boy was a perfect monkey, other than the red spots and 2 small ulcers in his mouth. Many of my friends who tried it on their kids when they had HFMD also reported good improvement and lesser 'suffering' on their kids.

Now, when he shows sign of runny nose, itchy throat, cough, etc. I immediately give him SAMBUCOL. It is a herbal remedy that's good for viral infections. I do not give daily because it's rather strong.


Another product I love is PROBIOTICS!
Although this is easily available at supermarkets (Vitagen & Yakult), I do not like the sugar content in those products (I'm very strict about sugar content in my son's food).

So I give this:
http://www.iherb.com/Source-Naturals-Acidophilus-Powder-Freeze-Stabilized-2-oz-56-7-g/1012?at=0

It is heat stable which means it can tolerate shipping better. :)
This is taken by the whole family (my maid included) :)


Now, I know many parents think I'm mad by being so strict and fussy with my boy's diet.

Why are you so strict about his food?
- Healthy habits start from young.
My boy was not exposed to any form of seasoning until he tasted adult food at 2.5yo. And adult food for him is a rare treat (when we dine out).
He does not like sweet or salty foods now. Mac fries, without salt pls. Give him a sweet, he'll give it back to me. Jelly, only unsweetened ones. Potato chips, he'll use a tissue to wipe off the seasoning.
We dont't have to delibrately control his 'junk food' intake now that he's old enough to express what he likes & wants.

- I was not given vege regularly when I was young, so end up growing up to dislike vege. I don't want the same thing to happen to my boy. So we encourage him to take vege. He loves crunchy vege, so we give him long beans, french beans, cucumber, etc.

- Healthy diet = healthy child
Less oil, no sugar, no salt.
Before he was 2.5yo, all his 'junk food' like chips and fries are HOME MADE. Slice up the potatoes, pat them dry, bake in oven
Snacks = raisins, dried cranberries (also from iHerb: http://www.iherb.com/Eden-Foods-Organic-Dried-Cranberries-4-oz-113-g/13843?at=0), dried apricots, etc. I have a food dehydrator at home to dry fruits on our own too When he was younger, we puree fruits to make fruit rolls which I cut into small squares to give him as 'sweets'. It's like rewards for him when he finishes his meals

- Healthy snacks?
My boy eats organic cereals or those adult cereals (low sugar/salt).
Or plain cornflakes with fruits. Yum Yum!

For parents who do not mind giving their kids sweets, here's something to make you feel better: ORGANIC LOLLIPOPS! Made from natural fruit juices! http://www.iherb.com/Search?kw=organic+lollipop

I buy these for my students & they love them. Some flavours have a natural sourness to them and my students keep wanting more!
Guardian/Watsons do sell them, but the price is much higher!
They also have candy drops (sweets with the stick).

Friday, July 9, 2010

Selecting the Right Preschool for Your Child

Recently, I recieved alot of emails from fellow parents asking about which preschool my son is currently in. I am really sorry that I am unable to share more information about this school as it concerns our privacy and our son's safety (we never know how is lurking around in the cyber world!).

However, I can share with parents on the criterions my hubby and I looked at when selecting a preschool for my boy.

1. Location
Depending on your childcare and work arrangements, this will be an important factor.
If you have elderly parents or maids looking after the kids when they are not at school, it is best to choose a school near home or a school with a reliable school bus service.
If your work is flexible or you are a SAHM with your own transportation and you don't mind travelling, then you can expand your scope of search to a wider area.

I personally chose the school bus option after searching the multiple preschools in Punggol area.
I did find 2 which I liked but they failed on certain criterions which I personally feel are very important.
Since the school bus picks up and drops off my boy at our void deck, it's easier for my maid and myself too.

2. Price/Budget
Not everyone earns a million a month, so you need to consider your family expenses/income before setting an amount that would be comfortable. I personally have a fixed budget for my boy's education (including enrichment classes) every month. Therefore, if I chose a preschool which had higher fees, I have to cut down on other enrichments.

There are preschools charging simply $80 per month or lesser and there are those charging $1500 per month or more. Again, you have to weigh the price you are paying versus the quality of teaching/materials and exposure to experential learning.

I personally feel that it's alright to pay alittle more for quality materials/teaching if you have the budget.

3. Materials/Quality of Teaching
As mentioned in the previous point, the quality of teaching and materials used during lessons is a very important factor. Some schools have their own trademarked systems while some will adopt/adapt other systems to use.

I personally prefer trademarked systems as there is a certain level or quality control when it comes to implementation of the program and the materials used. It might be more expensive but it's worth it.

As a very KS parent, I chose a preschool with a strong academic syllabus. My boy is in preschool for 2.5 hours a day. My wish is for that 2.5 hours to be filled with SOLID LEARNING. Not 'learn through play'. He can learn through play AT HOME, with me. I do plan activities for him like baking cookies, playing with fondant to decorate cupcakes, playing pretend, etc etc. Outings are also planned to let him experience hands-on learning with us. My main goal is for him to understand that SCHOOL IS FOR LEARNING, not play! Enrichment classes can incorporate play, but not in his formal preschool.

So, I chose a school with their own trademarked system and they are also very academic-conscious, they give the children extra work to ensure that they are ready for Singapore's Primary School system.

4. Caring Principal, Teachers and Staff
I love feedback from the schools so that we can reinforce values/rules at home too.

I chose a school where the Principal knows all the kids and parents personally. She makes the effort to talk to us about our values and the values they teach the children. I love it that they are very strict in terms of behaviour and manners.

I went down personally to observe how teachers punish the students when they misbehaved and found their techniques very successful. They will pull the child aside and explain why it's wrong to do it. Then they warn them that if they did it again, they will be asked to sit at the side of the classroom to observe the activities instead of being able to join in. IT WORKED! My mischevious monkey was tamed!

The school bus uncle is also fantastic. Sometimes they would arrive early when sending him back and we have not gone down yet, he will actually bring him up personally while the teacher accompanies the other children on the bus! This is EXCELLENT service!

And at times when I need to change the drop off location at the last minute (sometimes we would go to my mum's place instead), all I needed to do was to SMS him before they leave school and he's always so accomodating! He's so friendly with the students and my boy simply loves him. On days when my boy refuses to go to school (cos he would prefer to stay home to play with me or watch TV), we would just remind him that Uncle _____ is downstairs waiting for him in the nice school bus and he would spring up and run to the lift! I remember his reaction very vividly!
"Oh! Uncle ____ is here? He is driving the big school bus? I love it! Let's go, Mummy!"

5. Student-Teacher Ratio
In many popular preschools, each class has 15-18 kids and only 1 teacher plus 1 teacher assistant. I personally find it crazy because the room is very cramped and the kids do not get much personal attention from the teacher. At their tender age, personal attention is extremely important to weed out any potential problems like dyslexia and poor handwriting.

My boy's class only has 8 students with 2 teachers. He loves it and so do I! The teacher will write feedback in the communication book and very often, they will call or SMS me to keep me updated.

With such a small student population, it feels more like a small family. We are updated very quickly on any upcoming events/news.

6. Homework
While many parents criticise the need for homework at N1, I personally find it good. It's just simple worksheets on writing numbers/alphabets which they learnt in school. Plus, they have storybooks to bring home to read.

It's a good habit to start them reading and understanding the need for homework since young. My boy will do his work WILLINGLY (read the post on how we motivated him to love homework: http://mwtuition.blogspot.com/). They also get rewards when they are able to read new words taught them (of cos we have to practise with him at home using flashcards).

7. Layout and Facilities
My boy's current school is split into 2 nearby locations within the same compound. I like this idea because they seperate the N1/N2 and K1/K2 students. This reduces the risk of outbreak of diseases such as HFMD. They also have their own toilets (some preschools do not have them, especially those located in shopping centres).

They also have a large outdoor play area (but it is currently under renovation, so they will go over nearer to the K1/K2 area for outdoor play).

8. In-house Enrichments
For busy parents, it would be good if the school has enrichment programs.

The preschool my boy attends has extra enrichments (of cos you will need to pay for the additional classes). These enrichment classes include piano, swimming, chinese, abacus, art, mental maths, etc etc. They also have school bus service to send the kids home after enrichment!

Due to budget constraints, I did not send my boy for their enrichment programs. However, they do have holiday classes for these enrichment programs and school bus service is still available even during holidays! To prevent 'after-holidays-return-to-school-sickness', I enrol him in the holiday classes. He loves them! He will come home chatting non-stop about his 'adventures'.


As parents, just remember...
At the end of the day, we want our kids to be HAPPY. No point forcing them into a school they do not like (even if we think it is the best).
I did put my boy for trial classes at his current preschool before we made up our minds.